What is marriage? Does it mean you have pursued, and now conquered?
The prize is won. You have obtained it. A man has a woman. A woman has a man.
But is that all there is? Is there nothing more?
Have you forgotten love? Have you forgotten the wedding vows? Do you think the wedding ceremony is the culmination of all you pursued, and once you say, "I do," there is nothing more?
The one you marry is more than a prize. She is your wife. He is your husband. A relationship begun. Two individual people unite, becoming one unit. As it says in Genesis 2:24: "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."
Marriage is not just a place to get to and then move on, looking for something or someone else to pursue and to conquer.
Each of you acquire your heart's desire, but for your personal relationship with each other to grow, you must desire to pursue each other.
Marriage ... a relationship, just like the one the Lord desires with each of us.
Jesus pursues us. He lets us make our own choices, but He desires to have a relationship with you, with me.
He will abide (dwell, live, continue, remain) with Me and I will abide with Him. When we accept Christ as our personal Lord and Savior, He sends The Holy Spirit to live within our hearts.
John 15:4: "Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me."
John 15:7: "If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you."
John 15:9: "As the Father loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My love."
If we don't pursue Jesus, we have a life that is worthless. If we don't pursue our marriage partner, we have a life that becomes stale and lifeless. Neither relationship accomplishes anything.
Make the decision ... to love, to pursue, to continue, to dwell. Focus on Jesus and He will help you focus on your marriage.